WATCH: Why Anti-Porn Video Gets It All Wrong

KB Creative Labs has released a video that details the difference between the way sex is depicted in pornography vs. real life, all using items found on a common grocery list.

The video bandies about factoids such as "while porn stars have very little hair down there, in real life 65% of women, and 85% of men do", and "male performers can hump for days, but in real life 75% of men ejaculate within 3 minutes".

The video was made in collaboration with Cindy Gallop, a British entrepreneur who launched a TED series as well as a book entitled Make Love Not Porn. While I don't know much about Cindy, it seems noteworthy that she has dedicated a significant portion of her career to lambasting the industry.

I love holding a critical eye to all things - but this video is laden with anti-porn undertones, and that's not what being sex-positive is all about. Porn is a tool for people to explore their sexuality, and that's not something anyone should feel ashamed about.

The differences between porn and real sex should be painstakingly obvious to anyone who's ever ordered a pizza without enough money to pay for it and been exceptionally disappointed at the outcome.

"WHAT!? YOU MEAN TO TELL ME PORN STARS HAVE BIGGER DICKS THAN MOST DUDES??  I CAN FINALLY SLEEP AT NIGHT."

And as our Feature of the Week author Charlie Glickman has said, porn is not about saying "this is what you should be doing", but about letting people know what they can be doing. I've personally talked to numerous people who've felt shame over their sexuality - be it the gender they're attracted to, the style of sex they want to have, communicating with their partner, etc. There are limitless genres of porn depicting all sorts of acts. And whether you're Brazzers or Dylan Ryan, there are people who are going to gravitate towards your work and maybe feel a little less shameful for what they'd like to explore in the bedroom (anal, dirty talking, bdsm, bisexuality, longer sex, role playing, et al.).

Maybe most men come within 3 minutes - and that's important to recognize, but that's not to say that we can't engage in a conversation about how to change that, if we're interested in doing so.

Finally - I can't find anywhere (see my 10 minutes of Wikipedia research) where Gallop cites her sources for this video. She also uses an awful lot of vague, hyperbolic descriptions when it comes to the porn "facts". Male performers in porn "hump for days"? No they don't. They hump (in edit) for about 18 minutes max, and generally about 2-3 hours on set, with breaks in between. So if we're going to enter into an honest dialogue about porn vs. off-camera sex, let's make sure we're all being honest about it.

WATCH THE SFW VIDEO BELOW: http://www.youtube.com/watch?feature=player_embedded&v=q64hTNEj6KQ